How Friendly Should Your Office Friendship Be?

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Having good relationships among colleagues is vital to organizational and individual success.  Friendships among coworkers lead to greater job satisfaction and increased productivity, but they should be kept casual rather than close.  When coworkers become “best” friends, problems can arise and job performance may be affected.

How Friendly Should Your Office Friendship Be?Here are some suggestions for keeping workplace friendships professional and productive.

Follow the “one-year” rule. That is, go slowly in letting the business acquaintance become a friendship.  Allow yourself time in getting to know your coworkers.  First impressions may be lasting, but they are not always the most accurate.

If someone seems overly friendly or inquisitive, be careful. When other people seem overly interested in personal details or business affairs, think twice before you answer all their questions. Revealing too much too soon can make you vulnerable. Once you’ve shared information, you cannot take it back.

Test your new friends with low risk confidences.  If you hear your private comments being repeated to others, the lesson should be clear.  Until you have a strong level of trust, hold back on revealing anything that you don’t want the entire office to know.

Always keep in mind that any kind of gossip should be avoided in the workplace.  That means not spreading personal information about your coworkers or passing along organizational rumors.Small talk in the office is good for relationships as long as the subjects are appropriate.  It is a good idea to steer clear of anything that is personal or speculative.  If the company is talking about cutting costs, that doesn’t mean lost jobs until you hear it from the top.

Be friendly, be kind, be courteous, but be professional.  Keeping your personal friendships outside the office is just good business.

If you have ever had an office friendship become a problem, I’d love to hear about your experience and how you handled it.

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2 thoughts on “How Friendly Should Your Office Friendship Be?

  1. Lydia Ramsey Post author

    Arlene, thank you for sharing your story about why office friendships are not always what they seem to be. Your example is terrific. I hope you will continue to join with your expertise and insights.

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  2. arlene

    Lydia-
    As a Leadership Coach and Motivational Speaker you and I are soooo in sync!

    I tell clients: “there is a difference between being friends and being friendly”. Before she became a client of mine ‘Barbara’, under considerable personal strain shared the details with ‘Sue’. At a meeting the “friendly ear”, aka ‘Sue’ revealed to the Chief: “Barbara’ is quite fragile right now….this new assignment might just cause her excessive anxiety. Why don’t I assume the new responsibility?” Who got the company-wide visibility, the bonus, the promotion?

    Thanks to technology “Instant Intimacy” is promoted. The effects can be disastrous.

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