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Covid Kindness

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“These are the times that try men’s souls” or so it seems. As we struggle to live with Covid and all that has changed about the way we live our lives, we tend to wonder, “Where have all the good times gone?” They are still with us. Even though I have identified a behavior that I call “Covid Cranky,” I can’t help but be heartened by another which is “Covid Kindness.” I experienced an example of that today.

It has been a completely miserable chilly, rainy and windy day here in normally sunny Savannah. As one who does not enjoy the obligatory trip to the grocery store under the best of circumstances, I particularly dislike it in bad weather. I might have survived without going out, but my two elderly cats let me know we were low on their favorite cat food. They rule so out I went.

Mercifully, it stopped raining just as I arrived at the store. I had my umbrella with me. Thank goodness. When I started to leave, the rain began to come down with a vengeance. I opened my pitifully small umbrella and with an overflowing cart made my way through the parking lot where the water was already puddling.

As I approached my car, a woman coming toward me smiled through the downpour and asked, “May I help you with that?” I need to point out that she had neither an umbrella nor a raincoat. I thanked her and said I would be fine. She was determined and refused to take no for an answer. Not only did she help me load the groceries into my car, but she also insisted on holding the tiny umbrella over my head.

When we finished, I tried to give her my umbrella assuring her that I had others at home. She would not hear of it. Thoroughly dampened, she set off through the pouring rain toward the store.

I have no idea who she was. I doubt I will ever see her again, but I will never forget her. The simple act of kindness from a perfect stranger made my day. The rain continues to fall, but nothing can dampen my spirits because of the humble act of a perfect stranger.

Will you be the kind stranger in someone’s life at the next opportunity? At a time when we are feeling more stress and anxiety in our daily lives, reaching out to another human being can make a world of difference in how we feel and how we make others feel.

A Kinder Gentler World

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World PeaceAs we enter a new year, most of us are struggling with those mandatory New Year’s resolutions. Pick up any newspaper or magazine, listen to any news program and watch a talk show on TV. New Year’s resolutions are the topic of conversation.

There are people on both sides of this issue. Should we make them or not? Most everyone agrees that these resolutions are rarely kept. Experts recommend that we call them “goals” and not resolutions, believing that by changing the name, we are more likely to stay focused and actually achieve them.

Do whatever works for you and call them what you like as you strive to make changes in your life, whether personal or professional. Decide if you want to lose weight, stop smoking, be more productive, be more present with your family–the list goes on. Most of us know how we want to be different in 2015.

I would like to make a suggestion. Whatever you do, consider adding to your goals or resolutions making this a kinder gentler world as George H. W. Bush challenged us when he was sworn in as president of the United States in 1989. Now there’s a challenge. What can you, one person, do to achieve that, especially in these violent times? You can’t stop terrorists’ attacks by yourself, you can’t get the Democrats and Republicans to agree with each other for the greater good and you can’t even get the guy behind you to stop honking his horn when you don’t move fast enough as the traffic light changes

Here’s what you can do. You can:

1. Treat the people you interact with every day with courtesy and respect.
2. Offer to help a co-worker with a difficult project.
3. Control your own emotions in trying situations.
4. Listen more to those around you and strive to understand their point of view.
5. Smile more everyday.
6. Look people in the eye.
7. Hold a door for someone.
8. Say “please,” “thank you” and “you are welcome” more often.

This is the short list. You can add more and so can I can. So let’s consider this a starter. Think of other simple things we can do to make this a kinder gentler world as we go about our daily lives. I would love to hear what you would add to the list. Please send me your comments.

Good luck with those goals or resolutions. And remember to be a kinder gentler person everyday.

Photo from Savannah magazine

Photo from Savannah magazine

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