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Eating Spaghetti – To Twirl or Not To Twirl

iStock_000013117576_MediumTo twirl or not to twirl is the question when eating spaghetti. The question is always the same, but the answers are all over the map. After much research, it appears that the response depends on whom you ask.

The obvious source to go to would seem to be an Italian. However, Italians can’t agree on what process to follow when eating spaghetti.  Some say that it depends on whether you are from Northern Italy or Southern Italy. Truth be told, most Italians are of the same mind: you never use a spoon for eating spaghetti, and it has nothing to do with the geography of Italy. The general consensus is that the use of a fork plus a spoon for eating pasta is for children, amateurs and people with bad table manners in general.

Here is a collection of thoughts about how you should tackle those pesky long strands of pasta:

How to approach eating spaghetti may never be resolved, but if you are looking for a great resource on table manners, my Little Book of Table Manners is available.

Photo from Savannah magazine

Photo from Savannah magazine

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Posted by on February 24, 2016.

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Categories: Business Etiquette, Dining Etiquette, Office Etiquette

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  1. Both of my grandparents were from Termoli, which used to be in Abruzzo,used fork and spoon to twirl pasta. Never was there a hint of doing it any other way and to this day the whole extended family uses a spoon and so do many of my friends. My grandparents were very polite, well mannered, well educated and served and ate beautifully. Manners, tradition, and consideration were of the utmost importance and still are. Therefore, the answer to the question of do Italians eat spaghetti with a fork and spoon, the answer is yes. At least this Italian does.

    by Charlotte Mammarella Driver on Jun 23, 2021 at 12:14 am

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Lydia Ramsey is a leading business etiquette and modern manners expert who offers seminars, keynote speeches, webinars and individual coaching. She works with corporations, associations, colleges and universities as well as individuals. After careers in education, healthcare and non-profits, Lydia formed her own business to pursue her passion for modern manners and professional courtesy. While […]more →