Category Archives: Wedding Etiquette

The Wedding is Canceled

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broken engagementThe big split this week between Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy has everyone talking. Of course, people love gossip and always want to know more. The two are being discreet in their responses in spite of being so large in the public eye. Calling off the wedding raises the question of what to do when the wedding is canceled and the invitations have already been sent out. The answer is  clear:

  • You send out notes or cards to all the would-be guests advising them that the wedding is canceled. These should be printed on a quality card stock. In the case of Wozniacki and McIIroy it would seem unnecessary since the break-up is practically front page news. Nevertheless it is the right thing to do.
  • You return any gifts that have been received, including a short handwritten note. There is no need to go into a long explanation about what happened. This, in essence,  is something of a thank you note, but with an unhappy twist.
  • The bride-to-be must return the ring. No doubt, there will be another one on her finger in the future.
  • You notify all the vendors you have hired as quickly as possible.
  • You speak as little as possible about the break up and move on with your life.

If you were among those invited, wish each party well and refrain from prying into their business. Don’t ask questions, but listen if they want to talk.

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Don’t Tweet From The Church

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Don’t tweet from the church.  That’s the headline from an article published by the Associated Press today. Who ever would have thought that the time would come when people would have to be told not to take their cell phones to the royal wedding or if they do, to turn them off and certainly not to tweet or update their Facebook status during the ceremony. We have certainly sunk to a new low when it comes to etiquette and protocol.

As a business etiquette expert who speaks and writes about the rules of manners on a daily basis, I was surprised that I was surprised. I can understand the need to explain proper attire in today’s world of jeans and flip-flops and to advise people on when and how to interact with the Queen.  After all it is not every day that one is invited to a royal wedding.  But not to tweet. Shouldn’t anyone included on the guest list have knowledge of at least the basic rules of good manners?

My favorite quote from the article is this: “The ultimate faux pas would be to have your mobile phone go off in the Abbey, even if you had ‘God Save the Queen’ as your ringtone.”

Is it just me?

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Since 1996, countless people have benefited from her wisdom through keynotes, seminars and conference breakout sessions.  Her Southern charm and sense of humor have made her a sought-after speaker and consultant.

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